Ladies, stop peeing your pants.
I'm not kidding, mamas. It's not normal.
I've had a more than a few children, which should put me solidly in the Peeing Your Pants is Cool Club from my in-depth analysis of the market*, but I refuse to join.
For years, I have heard off-hand comments from all ages of mothers like, "Well, I had kids, so... you know."
You know, in reference to strenuous exercise (hey Latin dancers during Jive), or other jumping up and down things, or coughing, or sneezing.
The adult diaper market is on the rise, and not for 80 year olds. They're targeting 30-50 year old women! Because we think peeing your pants after having kids is normal.
It is not.
Would we really rather buy DIAPERS than do a few really simple exercises to fix the problem?
Good God, I'm not a doctor, but:
If this is happening to you, it's diastasis recti and not to be dramatic, but it's ruining your life. It can cause incontinence (NO), bad posture (NAY) , a belly pooch (let's avoid that as much as possible), pain during sex (NO AGAIN), AND THE WEARING OF DIAPERS AS AN ADULT.
Probably most importantly though, it'll make dancing more difficult until you strengthen your pelvic floor. And even non-mamas can give this stuff a whirl for a stronger core.
It doesn't matter if your baby is 35 days or 35 years old or nonexistent, this whole DR thing can be fixed.
Here are some great resources for rehabbing your abs:
The MuTu System (BIG FAN of this program)
Pregnancy Exercise (a $10 program with lots of options)
Deliciously Fit N Healthy (it's free and I love her workouts in general, but her DR ones are awesome)
Not to mention you could Google that shit and get about a million more options. Or talk to a doctor. Or physical therapist. It literally takes less than 10 minutes a day of deceptively simple exercises over a couple weeks to get this stuff under control.
*Google and people saying off-hand remarks to me for years.